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Q. What is
Emotional Development?
A. Most of us find that we are
living in demanding and confusing times which can leave us feeling
overwhelmed and uncertain. We tend to cope with this by this by
ignoring or suppressing how we feel, but this can lead to countless
problems such as excessive anger, anxiety and depression. Emotions are
a fundamental part of who we really are, and learning to recognise,
understand and communicate our feelings enables us to change old
patterns of response, especially ones that no longer seem to work for
us.
We all have the right to express our feelings, whatever they might be;
owning our feelings means taking responsibility, both for
acknowledging what we feel and for the way we act on it. It is
important that we learn to accept our feelings, however strong or
frightening they are, and that we are prepared to modify them in order
to express them assertively and without blame.
It is often difficult for us to identify what we are feeling. Physical
sensations are signposts that can indicate our emotions. Learning to
recognise bodily cues and thought patterns enables easier
identification and understanding. Once we are aware of our feelings,
we also need to acknowledge that we have choices in what we do with
their need to be expressed.
We live in a society that gives little permission for the safe
expression of our feelings. We grow up with messages such as ‘anger is
bad’ and ‘putting others first is good’. By labelling feelings in this
way, we are encouraged to deny or repress those we are told are
negative, and consequently we end up focusing on how bad we feel for
not keeping our negative emotions under control. Finding an assertive
expression for all our emotions is essential for our emotional,
physical and mental health.
Finding a form of physical release for our strong feelings is an
important component towards our emotional health. Having strong
emotions can lead us to unreasonable thoughts and actions that we may
regret at a later date. Engaging with some form of physical release is
a good way of calming down and can help us to stay in control.
Most of us, with practice, are capable of distracting ourselves enough
to avoid inappropriate outbursts of emotions, but we still have
difficulties in coping with what we feel, especially when it comes to
communicating it. We find it difficult to face our fears of
vulnerability, manipulation and rejection. Learning how to communicate
assertively leads to greater confidence in ourselves and in others. By
developing compassion for ourselves and others, we are promoting good
relationships and the ability to let go of the ones that drain us,
whether they be in our past or present.
The Emotional Management Course was developed in response to the
demands of Anger Management 5 years ago at the Victory Centre NHS
under the supervision of Harry Temple lead Psychologist. I designed it
based on the cognitive behaviour model and it is now recognised and
endorsed by the Devon Partnership trust.
However, its effectiveness in
tackling anger is not by only understanding Anger but also by
addressing other emotions that arise before anger, which is why it is
called Emotional Development. It is also recognised by Family court
judges, solicitors and Social services.
Q. How will Emotional Management help?
A. We live in a world of very little guidance and many choices…
Most of us have not been shown as how to work with and manage our
emotions. As a consequence we find that ignoring or suppressing our
emotions can lead us to respond inappropriately and take extreme
actions which have lasting consequences.
This course promotes an understanding into why we are emotional beings
, how to recognise our feelings, how to manage anger and other
emotions and by communicating assertively so that you are being heard.
The course also helps to addressing the underlying need to feel
confidence in your self and your feelings.
Q. Who is Emotional Management for?
A. Anyone who wishes to develop their understanding of them
selves, emotionally, and would like to a have better relationships
with themselves and others.
Q. How is it different?
A.
It is different form any other course dealing with anger as it looks
at who you are and why you reacting in this way. It will give you
personal strategies and understanding in order to address your
difficulties. It will also leave you feeling that are able to cope
more effectively.
Q. How
long is the course?
A.
Individual courses- 1 initial meeting + 6 weekly sessions of 1
hour or one day.
Q. How
much does it cost?
A.
Total cost £175.00 or £25.00 per session.
One day workshop (approx 10am to 4pm) = up to six people total £180.00
+ £20.00 per additional person.
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